There is a saying: "After the storm comes the calm" and other: "There is no sorrow that lasts 100 years, nor who resists it”. There are moments in life where you passed the stage of the storm, and it is in your hands if you enter the stage of calm or not.
If after a storm it is difficult for you to calm down or maintain it, it is because you feel or are trapped by the past, for what is no longer there, and that today only lives in your mind. Thus, you are allowing your past to mark or affect both your present and your future. It is then that you are a slave to the past and to your own mind.
The irony is that you are the one who has the key to open the door that allows you to live in the present, to be free to design and build a new present that is already available in your path, but that you do not dare to enjoy, and that daring, will take you to the future you deserve.
If you feel trapped in your past or it is difficult for you to enjoy what you deserve in your present, you have two options at the moment you are aware of it. One is to voluntarily use that key and thus open the door that allows you to cross the bridge that you require to free yourself; the other option is to stay there until you can't take it anymore, that's where the second saying fits: "There is no sorrow that lasts 100 years, nor who resists it".
If you dare to make the decision to use the key and cross the bridge (work) to free yourself from your past, then while walking that bridge, it is necessary to make processes of forgiving the past but without getting trapped by it again on your own. mind. It is simply setting a limit and a determined time to make aware of what has to be done, aware of the past and face it, and work on it. We must also recognize and value the learning acquired, as well as the people who were part of those stages, since they were teachers, and it is important to thank them, and let them go from our minds.
In that process then you decide to clean what needs to be cleaned, and cut it out of your life. At the same time you live the process of gratitude, because thanks to those experiences, today you are who you are, and you are someone who is ready to move on to another stage; that indicates maturity.
With that decision, you begin to take charge of yourself, to assume responsibility, and to be the protagonist of your script, and not the victim of others. You are no longer the one who blames yourself or others for the experiences. And then you are free to say yes to life, to love yourself and others unconditionally. You are now free to give yourself to the life you choose to live today.